My Story …
When my 32-year old husband passed away from cancer leaving me a solo mom of two, I believed that I was the only young widow on the face of the earth. I was living my worst nightmare!
My life had become some tragic love story where I lost my soul-mate and best friend, the father of my one and three-year-old, and our perfect, white-picket fence life together.
Ian was healthy. He wasn’t supposed to die that young. It wasn’t fair that other children had their father but mine didn’t! I felt like my kids were doomed for disappointment and failure, never knowing their biological father and having to feel that void as the grew up.
As time passed and dove into my healing, my story of my husband’s death began to change.
Ian had still passed away at the age of 32 from Uveal Melanoma, but the narrative didn’t seem so hopeless and tragic. In fact, there were entirely new themes and chapters emerging!
I realized that I wasn’t alone and that many young men (and women) die. Changing this narrative freed me from my story of victimhood and catapulted me into a story of survival.
I started to see death as a passage, not something to be feared or beat. Setting a new tone around death released the stigma and healed the trauma around my story of Ian’s passing.
I noticed my inner growth & resilience, and new perspective on life from living the experience of loss. Focusing on the gifts in grief instead of just the gaps gave new meaning to my loss.
My story continued to change as I shared it on social media and received messages from countless widows telling me how much my words helped them heal. It was at that point that I decided I would use my story to heal, inspire and empower others who were walking a similar path.
In doing so…
I healed
I grew
I found new meaning, and
I re-claimed my story on loss!
And now I want to share this life-changing work with you.
The facts of the death stay the same. But your story changes.
Events happen in life. YOU give them meaning.
A loved one dying is a FACT. You create the story around it.
In the early months of grief following my husband’s death, my story on loss was one of tragedy and hardship. Now, four years since his passing, my story is one of survival, transformation and rebirth.
It can be difficult to separate the facts of the loss from the stories.
Humans are meaning making machines; and the lens from which we view the world through, has a major impact on our lived reality.
Societal influences like culture or religion; family upbringing and past trauma all influence the way we see, and thus behave in the world. This is the process of conditioning and unless you understand what sub-conscious programming is driving your actions, it’s hard to discern what’s an actual truth vs. a tale.
Why this matters in grief?
Your conditioning and past trauma shapes your experience of loss. It influences how you perceive death, struggle, pain and hardship and affects your ability to bounce back. When you untangle these beliefs and make them conscious, you can start to separate the facts of the loss from the story to …
Heal old wounds
Embrace your grief
Reduce your suffering
Find meaning in your loss
Because you are in control of the narrative!
Unpack the POWER of Story
I created STORY for the griever who desires to understand the impact of STORY in grief to heal, re-write and create impact with her narrative on loss.
In this FREE 90-minute master class you will learn:
- How to separate the facts of the death from the stories
- How your story of loss might be adding to your suffering
- How to bring awareness to and release old stories that are keeping you stuck
- How to re-write the narrative on your story of loss to integrate & make meaning
- How to use your story to create and impact & legacy for the deceased … and YOU!
To live fully & freely as you write your next chapter.
You Control the Narrative
A life-altering loss breaks you open. And it’s in the deep fracture — the void — that you are invited to dive in and meet yourself on a whole new level. Uncovering stories from the past that add to your suffering can lead to deep healing, growth and transformation. As you free yourself from old plots and re-write the narrative on your story of loss, you can find tremendous purpose and meaning in life moving forward without your loved one.
I do this transformative work with clients who have invested multiple four-figures in their healing and growth, and now I’m sharing my unique methodology with you!
I can’t wait to un-pack the power of story with you, friend!
Love & light,
Emily
Your guide...
About Emily
Emily Bingham is a Certified Grief Educator, Grief Coach, widow and founder of moveTHRU. After the loss of her husband in 2019 to Uveal Melanoma, she started moveTHRU to create new meaning out of her tragedy by helping others heal. In a few short years, it’s evolved into a full-blown online grief coaching business. Emily has worked with hundreds of clients in her private & free coaching groups and has used her story of loss to reach millions of followers through her social media content on TikTok and Instagram and to write her first book (being published early 2024). Her goal is to help anyone who has experienced a loss embrace grief through movement, mindset, and by connecting with a community who understands.
