I asked this myself this question less than five years after my 32-year old husband’s death to cancer.

I felt guilty for even thinking it, but that reality was that his tragic death … gave me life.

As I navigated grief and rebuilt my life without my husband, parts of myself that had been suppressed or nonexistent were born and came out to play.

It was in the darkness of grief and in hitting rock bottom, where I was forced to stretch and expand, meet myself at my essence, and re-think everything about the world that I believed to be true.

I never wanted my husband to die. I wasn’t happy or even ok with it!

AND at the same time, I was grateful for the experience of suffering.

Like most birth stories, this was a messy, disorienting and painfully slow process. But in moving thru grief & the tragedy of my husband’s death, I’ve discovered my truth and I’m living it more than ever.

Now I want to share how you can too!

THEY SAY THAT...

When a one door closes, another one opens.

The same hold true with a life-altering tragedy!

Whether it’s a death of a loved one, a major job loss, divorce or trauma — this tragedy marked the end of life as you knew it, AND simultaneously your new life began.

Most people navigating hardship struggle because they’re so focused on the door that’s closed that they fail to see the ones that are opening.

• They don’t know how to hold the duality of their loss alongside the potential gains.
• They get fixated on how things didn’t go as planned or how it should have been, instead of accepting that the future wasn’t theirs to begin with.
• They get so attached to the "future story" that it blinds them from seeing any new possibilities -- the redirect.
• They fight their grief instead of feel it, alchemizing it as the medicine needed to integrate the pain.

In doing so they get stuck in the story of how this tragedy ruined their life. When if fact, their tragedy is the actual thing that can change everything … for the better!