Is There an END to Grief?

DISCLAIMER ⚠️

👉 Grief is different for everyone!

For me…

I really didn’t feel it on my husband’s 5th death anniversary last week. 🤷‍♀️

Maybe because…

- I was distracted playing at the beach with my kiddos
- I didn’t have the space to dive fully into my emotions
- I felt torn between feeling sad about my PAST or fully engaged in the PRESENT

😯 Regardless, it didn’t come up.

In year 4 and 5 since Ian’s death, I’ve thought that something was “wrong with me” for no longer missing Ian or longing that he was here.

I’ve gone to therapy exploring my tendency to bypass pain.

I’ve done subconscious reprogramming to help me fully feel the experience of Ian’s death.

I’ve used all sorts of somatic therapies to release grief that has been stuck in my body after dissociating.

🤕 I’ve done A LOT of work to heal!

So it makes me question …

Is there a chance that I might just be done⁉️

Now, I still get a random wave every now and then. But, it doesn’t feel like GRIEF – there’s sadness, but no longing, missing or emptiness because …

👉 There is no more LOSS!

I’ve ADJUSTED to the life that was handed to me and I’m 100000% in ACCEPTANCE of it.

Here’s how:

I loved Ian with all of my heart and his death shattered it into a million tiny pieces.💔

As I healed and rebuilt my life, my perspective on life AND death changed.

✝️ Easter was this past Sunday.

Whether you celebrate the holiday or not, we can all agree upon the universal theme of LIFE > DEATH > REBIRTH.🦋

👁 Seeing Ian’s death as a part of this natural cycle — so beautifully reflected in nature this time of year — is what allows me to be in a place of deep acceptance around it. 🌸

👉 If you are at peace with WHAT IS then there is no more LOSS.

There is nothing left to grieve!

Experts, influencers, and other grievers in this community might feel otherwise …

🤔 Maybe you do too?

I don’t have the answers…just my own experience.

But if there was an end to grief, would it give us all a little more permission to laugh, love and fully live up the little time that we have left here?